Feedback from hypnotherapy client “Many thanks for your time last week it was nice to take a few minutes out to talk and feel listened to by someone who is friendly and approachable. The session was relaxing and useful and has given me further ideas to help reduce my anxiety using some of the strategies discussed. The recording of the session was an added bonus so that I could come away and reflect and use when required. At the moment I feel supported and don’t feel the need to book an additional session however I do have your contact details should I wish to contact you in the future. I would not hesitate to recommend you to friends, colleagues and family.”
Certificate in Ericksonian Hypnotherapy
This course is about Ericksonian Hypnotherapy. It teaches you about the history of hypnosis, through to the work of Milton H Erickson and how to do Ericksonian Hypnotherapy. By the end you will know how to do hypnotherapy without the need for structured hypnotic inductions, without the need for hypnotherapy scripts, and without the need to just do 'suggestion therapy' hypnotherapy. You will know how to work with clients as unique, individual human being, and tailor what you do to each person as an individual. Once you complete the course and have received your Udemy certificate you can send me a message and I will send you a PDF Sussex Hypnotherapy Centre certificate of completion which says how many hours CPD you have done. This is helpful if you need evidence of undertaking a certain number of hours continued professional development as a practitioner. The course is made up of video lectures with PDF's of the slides used within the lectures, and additional information to help with learning, as well as a video demonstration filmed at a live training event of Ericksonian Language Patterns being used, and some Ericksonian Hypnotherapy demonstration Mp3's which can be analysed for learning purposes, and used for self-hypnosis, or self-help. There is also a quiz at the end of most sections to help with your learning. The course should take about 12 hours minimum to complete, but to get the most out of this training it is recommended that you take time to absorb and learn from each lesson by going and practising with friends, family and like-minded people, as well as going and observing people and reading some of the books from the recommended reading list to broaden your knowledge. Curiosity is the key to developing mastery and success. It is also good to ask questions and interact with others in the discussion areas of the lectures to get others understandings and views and experiences on different elements of the training. The course is structured to give you an overview of the history of hypnosis before focusing in on the work of Milton H Erickson. The course then takes you through the underpinning foundations of Ericksonian Hypnotherapy before building on this with Ericksonian Hypnotic Language Patterns and structuring hypnotherapy sessions. This course is ideal for those that are new to hypnosis and keen to learn about how to do hypnosis, for those with experience with hypnosis who perhaps use hypnosis scripts or structured inductions and just suggesting problems away, that want to develop their skill and knowledge at being able to do hypnotherapy with people without the need for structured inductions and just the use of suggestion therapy. It is also ideal for hypnotherapist that perhaps don't have much knowledge or experience with Ericksonian Hypnotherapy and want to take a course for continued professional development (CPD), or Life-Coaches, NLP Practitioners, Coaches, Counsellors and other therapists that want to learn about Ericksonian Hypnotherapy to add this skill to the therapy or coaching you already offer. (Different places in the world have different rules around who can practice as a hypnotherapist. My view is to practice as a hypnotherapist you should undertake extensive live classroom tuition which teaches therapy and then only work with those client groups you have been trained to work with. If you are totally untrained but have an interest in learning Ericksonian hypnotherapy this course will teach you all you need to know, but I would recommend you shouldn't work as a hypnotherapist based just on taking this course. This course will still teach you advanced communication skills which can be helpful in a wide range of life situations. If you have trained in hypnotherapy, counselling, coaching, or NLP or other similar fields then Ericksonian hypnotherapy should make great additional skills for your tool-box to use with clients you have been trained to work with, and this course should also give you a greater understanding about your use of language and other skills with clients even if you aren't doing hypnosis) Dan Jones, the course tutor, is one of the UK's leading Ericksonian Hypnotherapists with over 20 years experience. He teaches the UK's premier Ericksonian Hypnotherapy Diploma accredited by the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council, and is bestselling author of 'Advanced Ericksonian Hypnotherapy Scripts' and 'Hypnotherapy' Full details
"Please, clouds, don't rain!" Not going to work, is it?
And neither will trying to reassure someone who just can't be reassured. They will go on fretting, no matter how you plead.
Chronic insecurity in your relationship is a major problem. Why? Because relationships really, deeply matter. Your health, your wellbeing, your happiness are affected by your relationships more than any other factor. And your most intimate relationships have the biggest effect of all.
It's not just the insecure person who suffers
Feeling insecure in a relationship is horrible for the one who is feeling the insecurity. The burden - of fear and obsessive thoughts, of feeling powerless, of awful awareness that all this insecurity may actually itself be destroying what you treasure most - can feel pretty unbearable.
But it's also tough for the person on the receiving end of all that insecurity. The truth is that being involved with a really insecure person can be hell.
This article highlighted what a common problem insecurity is
I wrote an article a while back on overcoming insecurity in relationships and was inundated with feedback from all over the world. The scores of comments on the article itself were just the tip of the iceberg. My inbox overflowed with hundreds more private emails from people wracked by feelings of relationship insecurity.
That article, which explores the reasons for insecurity and offers practical tips to help overcome it, eventually became the springboard for the development of the new 10 steps to overcoming insecurity in relationships course. My article was mainly addressed to those who are themselves feeling insecure in a relationship; but I also got - and still get - hundreds of emails from people who have extremely insecure partners. A common recurring theme of these accounts is how isolating it can feel to find yourself in a relationship with someone who is deeply insecure. And this is one major reason why extreme insecurity can be so damaging.
Why reassuring your insecure partner is almost a lie
Because 'reassurance' is what insecure people want most, and anyone can say reassuring things, it's all too easy for partners (and friends) to offer reassurances that everything is "really okay" in the relationship even when it isn't.This is a kind of denial. And - ironically - the reasons it might not be okay are often the product of the insecurity itself.
Sometimes the only genuine problem in a relationship is the emotional insecurity of one partner and the effect that has on the relationship as a whole. But it's easy to fall into a pattern of always pretending everything is fine, even when the insecurity becomes really damaging. Such pretense becomes isolating and can drive partners further apart. This is how insecurity can damage or even destroy the relationship.
Relationships thrive on intimacy, and intimacy stems from feeling you can safely be yourself with your partner. So what does it feel like to be in a relationship with a very insecure partner?
Worrying about relationship breakup creates it
Insecurity stemming from a fear of losing intimacy can actually bring on that loss of intimacy. Jake, a former client, described it like this:
"I actually feel totally disconnected from Sara now. She doubts my every word, doesn't believe me when I say I've been working, and constantly misinterprets what I say. It's driving me nuts! And the angrier I get, the more insecure she gets. I can't win! I've tried being sympathetic, but now everything has to be on her terms, I have to ask myself all the time - is this going to upset her or not?"
Jake told me how he had started to feel very lonely in his relationship, like he had no one to talk to, because "Talking to Sara is like walking on egg shells - will I say the wrong thing? Will she take it the wrong way?"
He, like many who are close to someone so insecure, found himself getting more and more emotionally distant from Sara. He felt less able to speak to her about how he felt, and less able to relax around her. Loneliness isn't about being alone so much as feeling alone with others - because you feel misunderstood by them - and that's how Jake now felt with Sara. He'd begun to feel trapped, finding it hard to be around her but also hard not to be around her, because he knew how painful it was for her to be wondering where he was or whom he was with.
The painful truth is that insecurity can lead to the death of intimacy in a relationship - the fear of losing something can actually bring about that loss. Trying to force intimacy or love - demanding to know how someone feels, what they are thinking, who they've been talking to, what they are doing - can just drive them further from you.
So what should you do if you are in a relationship with a really insecure person?
How to tell if you have a truly insecure partner
It's vital to figure out whether the person you are with isgenuinely excessively insecure. Some jealousy and insecurity is actually normal in most relationships from time to time - especially in the early stages. Insecure people are often insecure about their insecurity, because they instinctively know how damaging it can be. But if insecurity is a constant and central feature of the relationship then, yes, it is a problem and a potential cause of breakdown. Of course you can reassure your partner, reason with them, and be gentle and loving toward them, but it's important not to make too many adaptations for them. This was the mistake Jake made. He had completely stopped spending any time with his friends without Sara. He rang her on the hour, every hour, when he had to work late. He told her he loved her so many times a day that it was more like a chore rather than a genuine expression of how he felt. And after a while the relationship no longer felt real to him.
If the relationship becomes all about reassuring and not upsetting the insecure partner, you and your needs get sidelined to the point that the relationship can start to feel meaningless for you. Jake and Sara's relationship only improved once Sara herself addressed her insecurity, and learned to trust and relax more with not "having to know" what Jake was thinking or doing all the time. Her self esteem improved and, in turn, he then felt more valued, and no longer trapped or forced to behave in prescribed ways. At last he was being listened to and respected again.
If your insecure partner has enough insight to know they need to change, then you really can encourage them to make those changes that could make such a difference for both of you. Ultimately, no one should have to be constantly "on call" to their partner, or emotionally isolated by them. Good relationships are reciprocal, not one-sided. They flourish when partners trust each other, accept each other, give each other space, forgive each other for failings - and enjoy each other. You and your partner both deserve that. Read more about 10 Steps to Overcome Insecurity in Relationships by Mark Tyrrell
Grief is a normal response to loss, it can result from the death of a family member or friend, the presence of terminal illness or the end of a relationship.
It is multifaceted and consists of an emotional response to loss, but can also have physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical aspects.
While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross defined five stages of grief, being;
Grief is a natural process and it is important and natural to go through it, however if after 6 months to a year.
Bereavement, while a normal part of life, carries a degree of risk when severe. Severe reactions affect approximately 10% to 15% of people. Severe reactions mainly occur in people with depression present before the loss event. Severe grief reactions may carry over into normal family life giving an increased risks for stress-related illnesses
Increased doctor visits, with symptoms such as abdominal pain, breathing difficulties, and so forth in the first six months following a death. In other an increase in mortality rate has been noted with a five times greater risk of suicide in teenagers following the death of a parent. In some cases this can become Prolonged grief disorder (PGD).
It is important to grieve naturally however most people notice a change in mood after 6 to 8 weeks, the whole process can take between 6 months and 4 years to fully resolve.
If after a period of 6 months to a year the client feels there life is still unduly affected by their grief then Hypnotherapy can be beneficial.
There was a superb television delight on here in the UK entitled ‘Hypno-Surgery’ recently and it showed a man receiving hypno-surgery. That is, he had a hernia operation without any anaesthesia other than by using hypnosis.
Of course, it is a sensation because it is on television, however, these have been done for years. There are lots of filmed studies and masses of research that has been done using hypnosis alone when performing surgery.
Many ways have been used to alleviate pain over the years and I have experienced many myself and found hypnosis accompanied with a range of mind skills and tools to be by far the best way of overcoming and altering my response to it.
Can you remember a time when you had a paper cut and you did not realise that you had it until later on that day when you saw it with your own eyes? It was not until you saw it that it hurt and thought “oooh that smarts a bit.” This is naturally occurring anaesthesia, the capacity which exists within us all.
One of the most basic methods for using your mind to create anaesthesia is called the glove anaesthesia method and today I want to share it with you for you to use as and when you like.
Important point here : You must only use this pain-control technique when you know the cause of any pain. Please also consult a doctor if the condition persists. Otherwise, use this technique for fun and to remind you of how amazing you and your brain really are.
Step One: Find a comfortable place where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes. Get yourself relaxed.Focus on your breathing, let it be steady, deep and slow. Imagine relaxing all the muscles in your body one by one and really do take the time required to establish a nice relaxed physical state.
Use your imagination to imagine a favourite place, somewhere you feel safe and relaxed. Imagine that you can hear the sounds of that place, see the sights, feel the feelings that you would feel in that place. Use your conscious mind’s awareness and focus on each of the muscles in your body and think the word “soften” into each of your muscles. Imagine them melting, softening and allow your mind to be peaceful.
Take a good few minutes to do this; indulge yourself.
Step Two: Develop a strong sense of purpose right now. Using your internal dialogue, remind yourself and tell yourself that you have the power and ability to be in control of any sensations in your body and mind. Because you really do. Tell yourself that You accept that you are in control of your own mind. Focus on and imagine the unlimited power of your mind, tell yourself that you can send numbing sensations into any part of your body. Develop a sense of belief in yourself and in the power of your own mind. Really encourage and empower yourself.
Imagine that these words of personal power and belief that you say to yourself are being delivered to the deepest depths of your mind. Imagine that they’ve been accepted on every level of your body and mind.
At this stage, also tell yourself that the word “anaesthesia” is your key trigger word for a conditioned response later on.
Step three: Now we begin to invoke the glove anaesthesia. Begin by concentrating upon your dominant hand, really focus on it to the exclusion of all else. Notice the tiniest of sensations within it. Begin to imagine that using your attention, your dominant hand is free of all feeling. This needs some time and concentration.
Maybe you can use your imagination to imagine that your hand is encased in ice. Truly imagine those feelings.
Separate your hand, in your mind, from the rest of your physical body. Think of it as detached from your physical being. Continue to focus your attention upon your hand and allow it to lose all feeling.
Using your internal dialogue again, tell yourself that your hand is becoming numb. No feeling at all. Inside your mind instruct your hand to go to sleep. Tell it to go to sleep. Be aware of all the unusual sensations that are in your hand as you focus upon it and keep all your focus and concentration upon it.
Tell yourself that every breath you take seems to cause your hand to become number, and number, until you just can’t feel your hand at all. You just can’t feel your hand at all because it is numb. No feeling. Numb. Tell yourself that with authority and belief.
Step Five: Now, you’re going to transfer this lack of feeling to the part of your body that you desire to feel numb and have the anaesthesia in. So when you are sure that you have created the correct level of numbness in your hand you’re going to raise your hand and place it upon the part of your body you want to feel numb.
When you do this, you’ll transfer this numbness to that part of your body. So then go ahead and raise your hand and touch the part of your body you want to become cool and numb. Maybe imagine the numbness as a colour that you are spreading into that area. Maybe imagine that part of your body being filled with that colour and creating that numbness. Imagine all the sensations of numbness are being transferred into that part of your body. Release the numbness into that other part of your body.
Then spend some moments doing that properly and thoroughly now. As you do it, give yourself a time limit that this is going to last for. Naturally, you do not want that part of you to be numb forever. So make sure that you set yourself a time limit when your self-induced anaesthesia will end.
Step Six: Now that you have transferred the calming, soothing, numbing coolness, and you’re physically feeling better and better in that area. Really enjoy the sensations and marvel at your own amazing self. Imagine coolness permeates the area. Imagine you experience wonderful relief in that area. Breathe deeply and relax completely.
Maybe even repeat a little mantra of support to your self at this point: “Calm, cool, soothing, numbing sensations permeates the area. Better and better. Numbness. Relief. Numbness.” Use words that appeal to you the most.
Step Seven: When you have maintained the state and are sure that you feel really good. Say the word “anaesthesia” to yourself, so that each time you use this word in future occasions, when you have the right intention and conditions to do this again, saying the word will bring the resources of this session to make next time even better. Breathe deeply, embrace the sensations in your body and mind and repeat the word to yourself. Trust that each time you choose to use it in the future, it has a wonderful effect of enhancing and amplifying your control over your anaesthesia.
Step Eight: And it’s time to focus the incredible power of your imagination by imagining yourself doing this even better next time. Imagine that you feel more and more in control of your own mind each time you do this. Experience the joy in this realisation. Create every detail of this future occasion in your mind, including your reaction and the reactions of others. And in so doing you communicate your desire to the levels of mind that will assist you in manifesting this natural anaesthesia better and better each time you do it. Each time you use that word when practising your anaesthesia, tell yourself it works more and more profoundly and powerfully.
Imagine yourself really feeling good about this and what you can do with the power of your own mind.
Spend a few moments quietly doing this.
Step Nine: When you have fully absorbed all you can from this wonderful experience, open your eyes and remember all that has been communicated.
Step Ten: Practice, practice, practice. The more you practice, the better and more thorough it is.
You may want to practice doing this on your arm. Prior to doing it, pinch your arm until it hurts to gauge what your pain tolerance level is in that arm. Then when you have it anaesthetised, test how different the sensations are.
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The Inner Child refers to your emotional body sometimes called the 'True Self' one of the four aspects in cognitive behavioural therapy. It was referred to as the 'Divine Child' by Jung, as the 'Wonder Child' by Emmet Fox and as the 'Child Within' by Charles Whitfield.
Our personalities emerge as a result of our genetic code, DNA, or inherited characteristics, and the environment in which we experience. Childhood is dictated by those who raise us and often causes scars that will take years to heal. For the most part, our issues go back to childhood and what impacted on our emotional and physical bodies at that time. The inner child remains with us all of our lives.
We all have an inner child, it’s the part of you that laughs at childish things, wants to buy, test and play with toys, play on swings or on trolleys in supermarkets. This child is still a very special part of you. We are all children at heart, innocently searching for our meaning in life.
During the therapy we will explore four stages of your childhood at each stage, we will explore your current behaviours, thoughts and emotions. This can indicate problems that stem from a particular period of your childhood being;
Eight Child types can be identified with many people moving between types or having multiple types at various stage of their Childhood. The types are Playful, Spoiled, Neglected, Abandoned, Fearful, Unbonded, Discounted and The Spiritual Child.
Toys, Photographs and Art activities all enhance your memories and are incorporated into the Hypnotic therapy session. The therapy often invokes laughter, sometimes tears but always excellent results.
Inner Child work can be offered as a day’s workshop, private party or as a series of private sessions.
The HFEA (The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority) estimates that 1 in 7 couples in the United Kingdom have problems conceiving, this could be as many as three and a half million people.
The National Institute for Clinical Excellence (NICE) defines infertility as failing to get pregnant after two years of regular unprotected sex. Infertility is commonest is the 20-45 ae range. Infertility affect both men and women. There are valid medical reason why this can occur.
However more than 25% of these cases, are diagnosed as idiopathic or “unexplained infertility”.
In these cases, Hypnotherapy can help couples to achieve their natural fertility, conceive and give birth to healthy babies.
See our new page at http://www.hypnotherapyforhealth.org.uk/infertility.html
Chris Breen is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Advanced Nurse Practitioner and Non-Medical Prescriber, Holding Diplomas In General and Gastric Band Hypnosis, He is registered with the General Hypnotherapy Register and the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists, We also have full indemnity Insurance.