Abuse can take many forms: Physical, Sexual, Domestic, Slavery, Discriminatory, Psychological, Financial, Organisational, Neglect, Omission, Self-neglect.
Often the most damaging and Long lasting is Psychological which can be brought about by the other types. Betrayal by another, particularly someone you should trust such as a child, relative relationship is devastating to the victim. Long after the perpetrator has gone Psychological damage remains.
Symptoms of Psychological problems can lay dormant for years then appear without apparent reason or cause;
They can manifest as Depression, Negativity, Guilt, Fear, Anger, Self-doubt, Disturbing dreams, Distrust and Relationship difficulties. These feelings can lead onto a number of psychological disorders such as addictions, over eating or phobias such as agoraphobia.
Psychological problems can also be exhibited as physical illnesses such as IBS and produce idiopathic pain. In extreme cases this can lead to self-harm and suicidal ideation.
In some cases victims are drawn to situations and relationships where they are vulnerable and become victims again. In other cases there is a dramatic power shift and they look to be dominant in a relationship which can lead them to being an abuser themselves in some ways.
Although in most cases of abuse, it is undeniable that something happened our memories of events long since past are often incomplete or clouded by time, experience and beliefs.
Forgiveness is often suggested as an ultimate solution, however I understand why a victim would not want to forgive an abuser, as doing so may in their mind condone the act. However the Oxford Dictionary and others defines Forgiveness as “Stop feeling angry or resentful” or “letting go of resentment” a much more healthy solution and one that doesn’t in any way condone the abuser or the behaviour.
Some therapies encourage the victims to recall and relive the memories, however this can cause a strong unpleasant reaction for the client.
At Hypnotherapy for Health we use a combination of Hypnotic techniques, relaxation and EMDR to allow the client to let go of resentment and free themselves from past traumas.
Chris Breen is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Advanced Nurse Practitioner and Non-Medical Prescriber, Holding Diplomas In General and Gastric Band Hypnosis, He is registered with the General Hypnotherapy Register and the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists, We also have full indemnity Insurance.